Guest Guest Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 I feel so betrayed right now! After spending 5 years of my life with the same shrink…She’s just going to leave! I feel like I have told her every single secret. I told her things I never wanted to speak of again but somehow came up during therapy and now I have no one…once again god has proven to me, the one person that I can trust with anything will just leave. Things I can’t say to my husband or best friend or when I was in crisis I could say to her and get sound advice. Do you think that she realizes how long it took me to trust someone, the way that I grew to trust her. When I have a problem with my husband, friend, relative, or stranger I could talk to her without fear that it would be repeated or judged. How long, if ever will it take to develop that kind of Dr. /patient relationship again? I am devastated and don’t think it can be done. But I am truly worried about my own mental health if I don’t continue treatment. I saw her every week and she just told me today that she’s starting a new job in 4 weeks. I want to be happy for her, but don’t want her to leave. How come the people that did this to me walk the streets? But people that have child porn on their computers go away for years….their shouldn’t be a statue of limitation law in this state against sexual predators, because unfortunately sometimes children don’t have adult voices!!! Our system is broken! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 hey, try to not let this mess you up too bad. it'll get better. people move on, they have personal lives to lead. their professional life is separate from the private life. she didn't single you out as the reason for the change. even with her professional life, sometimes you have to make a change. you'll find someone to trust. change can be good. don't dwell on the past. it is only in your head and you can't do anything about the past. find something good about tomorrow and keep your nose to the grindstone. i can sense your grief. it's real and it hurts, but you'll make it. you've learned so much from her, take that and build on it. you can change things too. maybe the way you drive home or the places you go to. you'll never know who you could meet and that person could make a positive change in your life. try to look as this as an opportunity to move forward. start small and build on it. go buy a new outfit and new shoes. do that one thing that you've been putting off, but deserve. and remember, just when you think you've hit rock-bottom, KNOW that it will get better. don't let negetive people drag you down. if they affect you in a bad way, move on. surround yourself with good and positive people. keep the peace. i've been there, i say this with empathy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Benni Booboo Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 You have to look at the positive side, you did get to a point that you trusted someone and believe that you will acheive that again. To have a therapist for five years is good (especially in this area), I know people who have had three in two years. On the other side of things, five years is a long time to be in therapy and while I understand your sadness of losing this person that has helped you so much, I would think by now you would have learned some coping skills to prevent you from falling immediately back into a victim mentality. The goal between a patient and a therapist is to give you the skills to handle life on your own, to be dependent on your self to make the appropriate decisions for your life, not to be dependent on your therapist for validation. If you have learned these skills and are just in a moment of panic, take a breath and look over how far you have come in the past five years and focus on what you have learned. Hopefully she will give you some referrals for a new therapist and you can begin looking. Try to focus on the positives, where you've been, where you are and set goals to where you want to be. Good luck. @ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 This is how I feel in someone else's word's. I wasn't raped at 16. She's got me down to a tee. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 This is how I feel in someone else's word's. I wasn't raped at 16. She's got me down to a tee. I'm speechless...it makes me wonder if she has been living my life... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 It takes a long time to build up trust in a therapist, but you can achieve that again with someone else. After five years I think that a new perspective could actually be beneficail to you. There are other really great people out there who can aide you on your path to recovery. I'm sure that after all that you have been through trust is not an easy thing for you, but maybe you should start trusting in yourself and the path that you are on...the power is within you. @ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Benni Booboo Posted May 3, 2008 Report Share Posted May 3, 2008 That book "The Power is Within You" by Louise Hay is amazing. I would definitely recommend reading it. It could be very helpful to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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