Guest A Friend Posted April 25, 2008 Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 What’s the deal? How come it is so hard to make on line friends? I start to get to know people then they either want to meet in person, which I’m not into…I just want to make some friends. Then if someone is chatting with me I hear should I tell my spouse? I don’t even know what to say to something like that…My spouse doesn't care who I talk to on line. When did chatting on line become cheating? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 25, 2008 Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 What’s the deal? How come it is so hard to make on line friends? I start to get to know people then they either want to meet in person, which I’m not into…I just want to make some friends. Then if someone is chatting with me I hear should I tell my spouse? I don’t even know what to say to something like that…My spouse doesn't care who I talk to on line. When did chatting on line become cheating? because you are an internet LOSER Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dingbat Posted April 25, 2008 Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 If it's something you wouldn't want your significant other to hear (or read), then yes, it's cheating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
R.S. Posted April 25, 2008 Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 What’s the deal? How come it is so hard to make on line friends? I start to get to know people then they either want to meet in person, which I’m not into…I just want to make some friends. Then if someone is chatting with me I hear should I tell my spouse? I don’t even know what to say to something like that…My spouse doesn't care who I talk to on line. When did chatting on line become cheating? I chat on line and have made alot of friends. I cant say chatting on line is cheating. I would say cheating is going out with the person or meeting the person. Just my thoughts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 25, 2008 Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 I chat on line and have made alot of friends. I cant say chatting on line is cheating. I would say cheating is going out with the person or meeting the person. Just my thoughts I bet you think porn and phone sex is alright too? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I bet you think porn and phone sex is alright too? Wait... they're not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dlinclimo Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 Wait... they're not?There goes my weekend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest netz Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 What’s the deal? How come it is so hard to make on line friends? I start to get to know people then they either want to meet in person, which I’m not into…I just want to make some friends. Then if someone is chatting with me I hear should I tell my spouse? I don’t even know what to say to something like that…My spouse doesn't care who I talk to on line. When did chatting on line become cheating? Back in the beginning of the whole internet thingy, there were a few people online and those that were could generally trust the small group that was online at that time, to be able to meet and chat online without without any commitments and expectations. As the internet community grew, it became more affordable and accessible to the masses and the "other" side of society got involved. They took advantage of the trust and openness that once was in the "cyberspace" community and ruined it for everybody. With that came distrust of the internet and those that were on it. The most distrustful people were those that weren't online or understood the internent and just went by the stories they heard on the news. If your spouse is one of those that are not online and can't comprehend it, you have to look at it from a selfless point of view and understand that when you make a friendship with someone from the opposite sex online, their only knowledge of such relationships are what they know from the news and newspapers, and might assume it's sexual in nature. Kinda like telling your spouse you went to the bar, got a guys number, talk to that guy every day, and then try and convince your spouse he has nothing to worry about. My opinion. C Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 Back in the beginning of the whole internet thingy, there were a few people online and those that were could generally trust the small group that was online at that time, to be able to meet and chat online without without any commitments and expectations. As the internet community grew, it became more affordable and accessible to the masses and the "other" side of society got involved. They took advantage of the trust and openness that once was in the "cyberspace" community and ruined it for everybody. With that came distrust of the internet and those that were on it. The most distrustful people were those that weren't online or understood the internent and just went by the stories they heard on the news. If your spouse is one of those that are not online and can't comprehend it, you have to look at it from a selfless point of view and understand that when you make a friendship with someone from the opposite sex online, their only knowledge of such relationships are what they know from the news and newspapers, and might assume it's sexual in nature. Kinda like telling your spouse you went to the bar, got a guys number, talk to that guy every day, and then try and convince your spouse he has nothing to worry about. My opinion. C I agree Why do you have to chat with the oposite sex? If you want to make friends volunteer at the senior center. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest A Friend Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 What’s the deal? How come it is so hard to make on line friends? I start to get to know people then they either want to meet in person, which I’m not into…I just want to make some friends. Then if someone is chatting with me I hear should I tell my spouse? I don’t even know what to say to something like that…My spouse doesn't care who I talk to on line. When did chatting on line become cheating? I posted this topic because I want to know the rules of internet chat…Apparently I am doing something wrong. Because I seem to always make people think I want more than just a conversation. So instead of judging me and telling me to volunteer at the senior center, where I would actually have to interact with a person which is the one thing I am trying not to do. My point before being is that I’m not cheating and yet the people I chat with always seem to think it’s heading in that direction? Do you have any other suggestions? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2pelo Honey Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I posted this topic because I want to know the rules of internet chat…Apparently I am doing something wrong. Because I seem to always make people think I want more than just a conversation. So instead of judging me and telling me to volunteer at the senior center, where I would actually have to interact with a person which is the one thing I am trying not to do. My point before being is that I'm not cheating and yet the people I chat with always seem to think it's heading in that direction? Do you have any other suggestions? Where exactly are you posting? If, as you say, "you always make people want more than just conversation", one would tend to think you are either posting on the wrong sites, or saying things that are taken the wrong way? Beyond that, not enough info in your post to make a decision - for me anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I posted this topic because I want to know the rules of internet chat…Apparently I am doing something wrong. Because I seem to always make people think I want more than just a conversation. So instead of judging me and telling me to volunteer at the senior center, where I would actually have to interact with a person which is the one thing I am trying not to do. My point before being is that I’m not cheating and yet the people I chat with always seem to think it’s heading in that direction? Do you have any other suggestions? Since I myselfhave never chatted on line I need to know more before I comment. When you enter a chat room or find a chat room what kindof group are you targeting. Isnt there a chat room for all sorts of topics? Also when you go online do you have to enter female seeking male or female or do you just get what you get? Why would you want to tell a complete stranger anything about yourself? What would make them think you are looking for anything? If some one wrote to me and said nice day it rained I wouldnt get the impression they wanted to cheat I think maybe you give TMI. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bcdiogenes Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I think it all depends on what you are chatting about. Be very careful, you might find that you are chatting with your spouse! LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2pelo Honey Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 "if you like Pina Colada's...and gettin' caught in the rain"... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bcdiogenes Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest A Friend Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 Where exactly are you posting? If, as you say, "you always make people want more than just conversation", one would tend to think you are either posting on the wrong sites, or saying things that are taken the wrong way? Beyond that, not enough info in your post to make a decision - for me anyway. I was posting on this site. The first person I was chatting with kept wanting me to meet him, but I refused. So that ended that friendship, he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. I even reached out a few times. Then I was talking to someone else and all the sudden he says he doesn’t think he can continue because his girlfriend might find out and that’s kind of like cheating. I don’t see this as cheating at all. It’s not sexual, or flirty conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I was posting on this site. The first person I was chatting with kept wanting me to meet him, but I refused. So that ended that friendship, he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. I even reached out a few times. Then I was talking to someone else and all the sudden he says he doesn’t think he can continue because his girlfriend might find out and that’s kind of like cheating. I don’t see this as cheating at all. It’s not sexual, or flirty conversation. You were chatting on this site? This is a message board not a chat room. I think if things got inappropiate here someone would come to your defense. They are pretty good like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest to guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 Depends on what your talking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2pelo Honey Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I was posting on this site. The first person I was chatting with kept wanting me to meet him, but I refused. So that ended that friendship, he didn't want to talk to me anymore. I even reached out a few times. Then I was talking to someone else and all the sudden he says he doesn't think he can continue because his girlfriend might find out and that's kind of like cheating. I don't see this as cheating at all. It's not sexual, or flirty conversation. Tough for me to answer this, except to say, in my opinion, to carry on w/ your posting on whatever forums you like, and when someone gets overly pushy about meeting personally...tell them you're not interested...period. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest A Friend Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I relize this is a message board and not a chat room that is why we didn't chat on BCVoice... I Only met, what I think are nice people here. I just don't know chat "rules" are and why chat would be linked to cheating? Where are you suppose to go to meet people online to be friends?, if I'm not allowed to meet people here... Can you say that no one here is your online friend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I realize this is a message board and not a chat room that is why we didn't chat on BCVoice... I Only met, what I think are nice people here. I just don't know chat "rules" are and why chat would be linked to cheating? Where are you suppose to go to meet people on line to be friends?, if I'm not allowed to meet people here... Can you say that no one here is your on line friend? I think it is clear you don't know the difference between a friend and an acquaintance. You use the term "friend" rather freely. I dont think anyone here considers these people their friends. It seems some have met here, gotten together, and become friends but just talking to someone here doesnt make them a friend. How old are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest A Friend Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I think it is clear you don't know the difference between a friend and an acquaintance. You use the term "friend" rather freely. I dont think anyone here considers these people their friends. It seems some have met here, gotten together, and become friends but just talking to someone here doesnt make them a friend. How old are you? Yes I do know the difference between a "friend" and an "acquaintance" I have 2 friends, I'm in my early 30's . Perhaps I should have used the word acquaintance. I am new at the whole online experience and just want to know what I am doing wrong. I would like to meet more people online. People that I could possibly have conversations with that aren't going to take off the min. I say sorry I don't want to meet. Because this isn't the situation I want to be in. But whats wrong with wanting to meet people online that you're never going to meet in person. Kind of stands a double role. It's anonymous and I can just be me. And no one knows who I am, It would be nice to have an acquaintance that was interested in the same thing...It doesn't have to be a guy, It could be a girl too! But trying to find honest nice people on the internet is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest country girl2 Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 I was posting on this site. The first person I was chatting with kept wanting me to meet him, but I refused. So that ended that friendship, he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. I even reached out a few times. Then I was talking to someone else and all the sudden he says he doesn’t think he can continue because his girlfriend might find out and that’s kind of like cheating. I don’t see this as cheating at all. It’s not sexual, or flirty conversation. So if you were posting and talking to somebody here, they are most likely going to read this......have you already discussed these "issues" with this person? I really dont know what to say or how to answer you.......I "talk" to a lot of people on here and I joke around a lot, that is just my personality, I dont see a problem with that. To me, there is a huge difference between talking, being a friendly person, and joking around..........compared to "suggestive conversation" (and everybody has their own opinion on what they consider "suggestive"). I dont think that anybody can really answer this question if they were not "involved" in the conversations. Also conversations like this are difficult because all you are doing is reading, you dont hear a tone of voice, etc. People take things differently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest A Friend Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 So if you were posting and talking to somebody here, they are most likely going to read this......have you already discussed these "issues" with this person? I really dont know what to say or how to answer you.......I "talk" to a lot of people on here and I joke around a lot, that is just my personality, I dont see a problem with that. To me, there is a huge difference between talking, being a friendly person, and joking around..........compared to "suggestive conversation". I dont think that anybody can really answer this question if they were not "involved" in the conversations. Also conversations like this are difficult because all you are doing is reading, you dont hear a tone of voice, etc. People take things differently. See I don't think that I was being suggestive in my conversations but my cousin said that maybe TMI about myself is the problem but I don't really know what that means... I am a happy, bubbly, person, with a crazy personality. What am I suppose to talk about I thought the whole point is to get to know each other? do I have it wrong honestly? This is my personality. I am very inquisitive, I like to learn. I don't want to hide anything. I don't think there is anything to hide..I don't want to stop being buddies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 26, 2008 Report Share Posted April 26, 2008 "if you like Pina Colada's...and gettin' caught in the rain"... I sure do. Doesn't everyone ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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